Help! My boyfriend thinks our sex life is ‘vanilla’

Sex therapist Amanda Robb comes to the rescue. Q. My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year, are both in our early 30s, successful at work and have a great social life. Just when I thought our relationship couldn’t get any better, he dropped the bombshell the other night, he wants to ‘spruce up our sex life’. He says he wants us to be more ‘adventurous’, and…

April 6, 2015
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How to build rapport with work colleagues

There’s more to clinching the deal than closing skills and eye contact. We borrowed the best ways to win work friends and influence people from author of How to Connect in Business in 90 Seconds or Less Nicholas Boothman. Maintain eye containThis lets the other person know you’re interested and encourages them to talk. Listen closely… You might learn something. TIP: find your eyes wandering? Notice the colour of your…

April 5, 2015
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Hypnosis for social anxiety?

Does self-hypnosis work? One WH&F reader found it helped her deal with social anxiety. I didn’t go out unless I absolutely had to; I would even get my shopping delivered. And when I did go out I would panic to the point of an anxiety attack. I knew I had to dig myself out of it but I didn’t know how. I started ordering all these self-help books on anxiety…

April 5, 2015
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4 telltale signs of lying

April 4, 2015

According to research at Northeastern University, Boston, USA, these 4 telltale non-verbal signals indicate the person speaking is lying. While these signs alone don’t mean a person’s telling porkies, together they can be accurate predictors of deception, says Dr Nicola Davies.   1. Touching their face 2. Playing with their hands  3. Crossing their arms 4. Leaning away from you NEXT: How to tell if he’s into you>> {nomultithumb} Lifestyle

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Feel happier in 2 weeks

It’s all bout consistent positive experiences WHAT YOU’LL NEEDiPod/mp3 with at least one upbeat tune WHAT YOU’LL DOHit play and attempt to boost your mood while you’re listening. Be careful not to think too much about your inner state or question whether you feel happier, which messes with the process. THE SCIENCEA study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology showed that participants who listened to upbeat music while attempting…

April 4, 2015
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Skype interview tips

Candidates interviewed virtually are often rated lower than those grilled face to face. Find out how to land that dream job with our top tips. Sure you can wear slippers with your skirt suit, but the perks of video interviews are offset by a likeability handicap according to a new study at McMaster’s DeGroote School of Business. If you are up for a V-call, researchers offer these tips: Good internet…

April 4, 2015
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How to get a pay rise

You’ve got your annual review with management, you want to make a positive impression and push for a pay rise. Key moves “Walk into the room slower and more controlled, with open arms and sit with a forward lean if you are seated,” recommends body language expert, David Alssema. “This will show you’re actively engaged and interested.” 
Less movement and less fidgeting, and stronger and slower gesturing, will help you…

April 4, 2015
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Are you in the right job?

 Not sure you’ve chosen the right career? It’s all about personality types, writes Angela Tufvesson. Are you doomed to fail if you’re an introvert in a team of extroverts or a detail-oriented worker in the midst of ‘big picture’ thinkers? What’s your personality type? According to Prof Haslam, you’ll typically be drawn to jobs that fit your personality type. “People are naturally drawn to the sort of work they find…

April 3, 2015
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